Hehe... Finally we manage to get thru' the compulsory 1.5 days course last weekend.. (^_*) We attended it together at setiawangsa.. hiks.. its not that bad actually... i'd manage to exercising my face for laughing and blushing... ahah.. So.. we are now 1 step closer.. hahaha (gelak jahat)... tgl few things to be managed next month... means.. i can used some rest this few weeks.. (june - mid july).. rest to take care of my extra fat ahaha... seriously... i have now 4 friends that gain weight on their wedding day.. huhuhu.. (Why men don't listen and women can't read map by Allan+Barbara Pease)
Reason? sbb nervous! some had lose weight (even they're perfectly fit before) but some had gained (bile nervous byk lagi makan)... i'm afraid that i might fall into the second group.. hahaha.. nampak gaye macam ye.. haha... but i can't stop or give up now! yeah! i can do it!! yeah! hehe... (sbb puase hari ini.. so kenela eksyen sket.. =p)
I agreed with the purpose of this course.. yelah.. even if we'd knew each other for 10 years (in my case - 2 years).. there are still other things that need to be taken into account before we walk down the aisle (or.. before the akad.. even before the guy came for the merisik meminang whatsoever)..
i guess the difficult part would be to adjust ourselves and our different point of view... nama pun lain jantina.. mestilah we have our own point of viewkan... hehe.. i'm a steel-stoneheaded (ade ke perkataan ni).. if i knew i'm on the right side/path.. i wud 'berjuang' bermati-matian mempertahankan my stand without actually taking care of what he might feel.. huhuuu... the main thing... kene belajar kawal mulut.. even talak is not in woman's hand, yet we still have to control our mouth and behaviour from provoking the man.. isk..
honestly.. being 'the-over-thinking-me', i always wonder if he'd made the right decision choosing me.. haha.. how insecure i am right.. hurm... is it just me or every brides-to-be feels the same way?
- hidup tak boleh mcm sepasang lampu ni... sorang nyale sorang gelap... tak balance...
both must have the sparks to make it successful.. kan?
Bertepatan dengan mood kursus, i'd came across this interesting fact from one of blog i read...
"Men and women perceive the same world through different eyes."
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!!
>>> it's takes a lot to step into this new stage.. we can't just simply jump into the marriage life (like in the movies).. but for me.. love doesn't have to come later... in some cases (especially in today's life) we have to be in love with our partner before we can agreed to this commitment... we wud like to at least know the other half first before we agreed to be married to that person... huhuh... yes, ur partner can be introduce by ur friends/parents and u can be matched by ur parent or kene kawen pakse... but still... u might want to at least once met the partner.. right?
Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?
You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. (serious??!!)
To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!
Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing. >> yes... you can have different interest and point of view.. yet you still need one thing in common- the purpose of life.. yes... especially anything related in religion and life goal... huhu.. or at least we make it clear to our partner.. so that he/she could understand..
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
>>> Totally agreed!! communication is definitely vital in relationship... tanyela sesiapa pun.. even the penceramah pun agreed... communication is really important... the wavelength must be at the same level.. hehe... or at least we need to adjust it to the same level...
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch? (apekebende nye mensch?)
Sila baca...A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ';. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle. >> for me... personal growth is more better than seeking comfort..
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
>> agreed.. agreed... agreed... tak kene bayar pun bersopan santun nih... hehe... not only parents and the elders... tapi.. also to animals.. hehe..
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. >>> ya.. jangan memasang niat untuk merobah pasangan anda ya.. rakan2... coz, not only it can't be happening.. he/she might tend to rebel.. and be hypocrite just to shut ur mouth.. hehe.. tapi kalau depada pemalas kepada lebih rajin or depada pengotor jadi pembersih tu takpela... punyelah taknak ubah bini/laki... terpakse idup mcm dlm tongkang pun sanggup.. hehe... =P
Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.
Another perspective...There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
If you develop self esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST >> ya.. abeh.. kalau tak percaye die mau percaya siapa lagi... takkan pak guard ikea kot?
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY >> err..
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR >> keh keh keh.. slalu masuk salah timing... =P
5. SHARING TASKS >> yuk! yuk! yuk! paling betul.. hak hak hak...
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS >> yupe.. even tak perlu same sumer interest.. but how we tolerate with each other's yang penting...
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE >> betul! mcm citer kat item psl compete tu sumer...
9. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT >> ye perlu tau!
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS. >> ye ye saye paham... =P
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
Monday, June 29, 2009
step-by-step
Posted by groovy ally at Monday, June 29, 2009 2 comments
Labels: +Groovy Bridezilla+
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
one two ka four
Empat name panggilan saya:
- Ain
- Majin
- Ally
- Achik
- 1st Jan - cuti & papa's birthday
- 7th Feb - mama's birthday
- 1st June - saje suke *winks*
- 10th oct, 19th apr, 14 nov, 6th may, 14 aug, 4th mar.. err.. byk.. ngeh ngeh
- 25th dec - cuti... 1st may - cuti lagi... 1st feb - cuti lagi... hehe.. err.. sebenarynya... sumer hari cuti adalah bermakna bagi saya =P
- approve some adjustments
- sign in this blog
- saying gudbye to everybody yang balik kul 5.30pm
- kemas2 meja sementara menanti kul 6pm (ampun boss)
- making someone else happy ^_^
- listen to cool songs
- playing with aimanberry
- read gud book.. ehehe n i have a weird habit whenever i felt so down & low, i wud buy serious (eco/pol/je*w*s/history) book n feel happy after read the first chapter (slalunya tak abeh bace pun.. hehe...)
- kenderaan beroda 4 (sebolehnya berpacuan la.. ahaha how to say 4wd)
- percutian selama sebulan ke eropah (tanpa roaming)
- sebuah handbag yang sangat cantik dan rupawan
- stok buku cerita untuk setahun (1 a day = 365buah)
- Europe (london mesti mau juga)
- Gold coast & australia (perth/melbourne)
- New Zealand
- Turki
- Caramel Latte @ San Francisco
- Any coffee from Aik Cheong
- Nescafe ais/tarik
- if i need something less caffein i wud go for pineapple / apple / belimbing / teh botol or anything yang rase nipis..
- kiri - katil
- kanan - chestdrawer dan seketul cermin
- depan - langsir (brg ni ke yang anda maksudkan)
- kat pintu - tombol pintu & bende2 gantung2..
- Rumah - fav : my room / hall
- San francisco kat ampang point
- Mamak BRJ sbb ted suke nasik lemak die
- Border kat The Curve (uuhhh rindu..)
Posted by groovy ally at Wednesday, June 24, 2009 0 comments
Labels: +buddies+, +Quizzical Me+
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
b.i.t.t.e.r h.e.a.r.t
- I love listening to jack johnson...
- Zee avi is from Miri Sarawak...
so, what the connection then? ngeh ngeh...
Zee Avi has signed to the Jack Johnson's record label; Brushfire Records! No wonder i smell jack johnson in her song.. ngeh ngeh... =P
And another fact that caught me up is that Zee Avi post her video in youtube for her friends to watch... and after a while, she's been receiving thousands of e-mails which some offer her a label... wahh!! see how amazing internet works these days rite? but listen to her song please!!! she's sooo really cute...
Soo cute rite.. and she's really cute girl!!!
thank you Let Me Like It for being my soul-island! pic also taken from letmelikeit. hehe...
ps mcm nk bagi kat ted... tapi tajuk tak sesuai... mau kene pelangkung nnti hiks.. =P
Posted by groovy ally at Tuesday, June 23, 2009 0 comments
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Friday, June 19, 2009
k.l.u.t.z.y m.e
"Greatness inspires envy..
Envy engenders spite..
Spite spawns lies..."
Lord Voldermort a.k.a Tom Riddles (HP & HBP)
Anyway... ape kene mengene tajuk ngan 'You Know Who'... ahaha..
First.. allow me to laugh at myself first.. ahahahahaha...
Lunch tadi balik umah... then teringat nak beli somethin' kat OTK.. singgahla OTK. dah beli barang skali tgk jam dah 1.57pm (chec... ye ye je.. tapi yang penting jarum panjang dah dekat gile ngan nombor 12).. alamak! dang.. lambat... ape lagi.. lari2 pegi kat kete dengan bergayanye... and since my car is hand-me-down (hihi..) so, kete ni sewajarnya tidak memerlukan alarm la kan.. ahaha.. dalam gaya2 cam nak cepat tapi still maintain cun ala casual.. masukkan kunci kat tpt kunci nak bukak pintu.. skali takleh... eh.. apesal laks nih.. tgk2 dlm kete mak aii bersepah giler ngan botol2 air mineral.. eh... (lps kne bebel ngn ted last 2 months.. aku mmg kmas kete hari2).. huhu... laa.. dang2!! tgk nombor plat.. la.. salah kete.. ahahaha... terus gelak kat situ juga (kaver malu).. ahahaha...
dah2.. gua nak sambung kerja.. (sambil blushing2 +_+)
Posted by groovy ally at Friday, June 19, 2009 3 comments
Labels: +Groovy Coffee n Books+, +Groovy World+
Thursday, June 18, 2009
w.i.n.k.s
here we go... start.. now:
And the award goes to...
Posted by groovy ally at Thursday, June 18, 2009 0 comments
Labels: +buddies+, +Quizzical Me+
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Rose.. Rose.. i Love You..
Hehe.. ok i lied... i didn't wanna make it official yesterday.. as if kalau tak masuk dlm blog.. i cud still be 26 for another day.. (budget kalau tak make it official.. aku taklah berusia 27 semalam) ahaha... lame, i know.. so still can't accept i am 27.. huhu...
hehe.. i wish i cud wake up and be 17 again (mcm zac afron tu).. aha but that's mean i have to crack my brain again for spm.. and i was still chubby (skang pun), selebet and have no ted.. so, takpelah.. being 27 is fine.. but being 26 is even better.. ahaha.. gosh! i'm getting older every year.. tipula if i said i hate birthday.. sape tak suke birthday... dpt card birthday.. dpt cake.. dpt nice pressie... dpt wish..
so, why 27 is a big deal? because for me... 27 is the 'matured age'.. that's mean no goofing around, no wacky attitude.. and what more.. saya akan jadi muslimah sejati... and this is the age where i'm going to walk into the next stage of life.. hehe.. i'd set my own target that i'll only get married when i'm 27.. so that's why... maybe i dun look at myself and see the matured me yet... hehe.. even kalau kenduri kendara or meet other people.. mesti diorang ingat i still in school.. ngeh ngeh.. sometimes its flattering.. but sometimes i felt frustrated for not being able to appear like a working woman... tapi kadang2 if i wear baju kurung to office ade orang ingat aku dah kawen plak.. maybe because my flabby tummy? ahaha.. damn! i can't please anybody around me..
hehe.. remember i wanna celebrate it in style? yeah.. i did! ahahaha... and really in style + full of roses.. ya.. tema kali ini adalah Rose.. Rose I luv You (Frankie Laine)
- the next Malaysian Idol.. how many of us can sing while eating drumstick.. i bet tomok pun takbleh... (ignore my six pack please..)
Hahaha... yeah.. since my family will celebrate it on Saturday... i'd been forced to go Karaoke yesterday... ahahaha.. in style no?
I never ever fancy karoke... never... kalau takat nyanyi kat opis pasal kebosanan tu boleh la.. but not in public.. (naseb baik die tak bawak kat karoke jhambhan..) aahaha... being me and my voice sorta itik pulang petang atau kdg2 anak2 kehilangan ibu... lagi la aku taknak...
For me.. what i have in mind is just a quiet dinner so that i cud membebel & mengadu domba... or so that i can eat while reading book... aha.. tapi takpelah.. dah orang nak bawak banyaklak bunyikan... ikut jerlah... pastu bile part aku nyanyi kenape mesti nak bukak audio... hahaha... bencik.. tapi paling tak bleh blah mase nyanyi lagu AXL - Andai dapat ku undurkan masa.. hahahaa.. lawak giler.. yang ni mmg kitorang nyanyi feeling habih.. wakakakaka...
hum.. hmm.. hmm... (batuk2 kecil smbil buat muke 27 tahun)..
Oleh kerana saya berumur 27 tahun.. saya akan membincangkan tentang sesuatu yang serius.. (^_^'')
Have you read the obama's cairo speech? haha... i did only yesterday selepas bace blog our 4th pm... i always wonder on this new us president..
Obama: America's strong bonds with Israel are well known. This bond is unbreakable. It is based upon cultural and historical ties, and the recognition that the aspiration for a jewish homeland is rooted in a tragic history that cannot be denied.
Che Det:
11. The Muslims have never been part of the tragic history of the Jews. Why then must they pay the price for the tragedy caused by the Europeans? Had the Europeans offered part of Europe or America for a Jewish state, there would not be the sustained violence that we see in West Asia. But the Europeans expropriated Arab Palestinian land to give to the Jews. Can an injustice in West Asia atone for injustice in Europe? The Muslim Arabs have to pay for the asylum they provided the Jews by having their land taken away to give to the Jews.
There's another obama said that caught my attention...
Obama: We also know that military power alone is not going to solve the problems in Afganistan and Pakistan. That is why we plan to invest $1.5 billion each year over the next five years to partner with Pakistanis to build school and hospitals, roads and businesses, and hundreds of millions to help those who have been displaced. And that is why we are providing more that $2.8 billion to help Afghans develop their economy and deliver services that people depend upon.
hurm.. hurm.. mcm dejavu je... read The Confession of Economic Hitman... huhu..
taken from here and u cud read more on che det & obama
ngeh ngeh ngeh...
mcm biase.. mase tiup lilin.. mesti tanye.. ape yang kite wish kan...
this is my wish.. even tak sempat wish smp abeh pasal dah kene pakse tiup lilin2 tu.. ahaha...
- To be healthily slim & fit ~ teringat ckp ngan zura smlm mse discuss bile mau serbu nasik ayam lagi... "ok aku tak nak ape2 dr korang.. aku nak korang doakan aku kurus je before october nih" ahahaha giler desperate.. hahaha...
- To be a good muslimah & hopefully start making sense in my life...
Aaa.. boringla... mcm baru je wish time new year aritu kan.. So, what ever it is.. i just hope i stay healthy this year & be more matured and.. to get married(insyallah)... haha... hampeh..
Chak!! Teddy main chak disebalik bunge... (inilah punca gua tersenyum riang mase apek tu dtg time lunch 1st June aritu)
Dalam banyak2 bulan dalam setahun, i like June the most... double celebration means double pressie from ted.. ahahaha.. yeah! akulah pisau cukur itu.. ahaha.. even i didn't expect to get another gift from him.. cukupla dengan ingatan tulus mulus dan sms di awal pg & card di hari itu.. (sorry bro.. die wish aku lagi awal.. 1st June dah wish.. ahahaha tapi aku tetap terharu) tapi En Ted adalah En Ted... Being with him means living a world full of surprise.. Sesurprise dipakse menyanyi karaoke dan seseprise sms "ok, puas hati tak dengan jawapan i?" (bce dgn nada marah)
perlu ke letak gambar adiah.. takpelah nak tayang jugak.. hahaha
Ngeh ngeh ngeh... so, this is it... my final birthday celebration (cam nak mati laks) as a single girl.. celebrated in style to celebrate me walking into new stage of life.. ahaha...
Thanks especially to my family (mcm amek award laks)... Mama & papa... Angah & nini (for the crocs).. abg n femily & ajim.. tidak lupe juga... En Ted (for d double roses & karaoke..) and... for all my great luvly buddies out there who wishes (thru blog, sms, e-mail, fesbuk) for me... Really appreciate it girls.. \(^_^)/ Akhir kata... doakanlah aku berjaya menguruskan badan... hopefully berkat doa kalian.. aku akan berjaya menguruskan badan dlm mase 4 bln ni.. (walaupun harini aku kantoi dibelanje kak b mkn mc d... ye arini kami gencatan boikot.. esok sambung balik)
Ye disebalik kehappian mendapat hadiah & cake... saya masih tidak lupa.. yang saya setahun lebih tua!! uuh... ok.. sudah nak sambung wat keje sambil buat muke matured...
Posted by groovy ally at Wednesday, June 10, 2009 3 comments
Labels: +Groovy World+, +TED Tales+
Monday, June 8, 2009
2 hours to go..
ok... I need to post this... Haha... Xkirela.. I need 2 post a final entry b4 turning into 27.... Wlupon tpakse pow henpon angah nk online psl mls on laptop... But i can't miss this moment.... Huwaa... Tomoro bru nk wat official post... ('.') xleh trime kenyataan... Omg i'm getting older.. This year is d last year i'm celebrating my birthday single.... Tedak!! ntahla... Rse emo + nostalgia lak rsenye.... Huhuh.... I'm gonna celebrate this year in style! Yeah... Ahahaha style la sgtkan,..
Posted by groovy ally at Monday, June 08, 2009 2 comments
Labels: +Groovy World+
Monday, June 1, 2009
2 ~ t.w.o
~groovy mommy..~
huhuh... nape ibu ngandung kene mengait? adekah aku juga akan mengait kalau ngandung nnti? ahaha..
- Coz, today is monday (blues)
- Sbb still tired from yesterday's event.. (even takde seketul komplen yang kitorang terima)
- Sbb when i went to the event yesterday.. i only slept for 4 hours.. ye penatnya membawa la ke hari ni..
- Coz, i was in the midst of important part of the chapter where the voldermort was flying on his own (without broomstick yeah) to attack 7 potters.. then suddenly my alarm rang.. huhu kene siap2 dah...
- Coz today it's 1st June.. and he's 9 hours late... huhuh... bencik!
Then come the lunch time.. i was having my own-emo time continue my reading when suddenly this apek came looking for me... * the funny thing when he said "bace kad ni" with so serious voice.. ahaha...
Then the next thing i knew.. i'm blissfully happy... terawang-awang... kalau la dlm manga ke anime, confirm aku tgh terbang... floating.. Ngeh ngeh ngeh... tersengih2 sampai kat telinga..
It turned out that he's not 9 hours late... he's 9 hours early! haish... so.. (hurm.. as usual..) unexpected.. but sweet..
sweet mcm italk buddy nih... hehe (akibat kepanasan yang melampau)
Pun akibat kepanasan... tengah2 dgr si nik nyanyi ngan budak pompuan skali ade street fighting wa cakap lu... fight! fight! fight! 3 orang lawan 1... skali yang sorang tu menang... wah! so amazing!
Tambah panas bile Kak Nor nyanyi 'Asyik.. asyik... asyik'
* update
Posted by groovy ally at Monday, June 01, 2009 1 comments
Labels: +Groovy World+, +TED Tales+